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Do I Want a Divorce? Quiz

12 Questions 4 min

This quiz helps you read the last few months of your marriage, not just the last fight, by tracking trust, repair, and how safe conflict feels. You will get a four-type pattern, plus a clear next-step headline you can sit with. Use it to name what is broken, what is fixable, and what needs a plan.

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Part 1 — Questions

Answer each question on paper. Do not turn the page until you are ready to check your work.

They reach for your hand in the car. You...

Squeeze back, want repair
Notice, file the moment
Let it happen, blank
Pull away, feel unsafe
Move your hand away

A random weeknight at home feels like...

Messy, but we regroup
Shifts week to week
Two roommates, separate corners
Tense, eggshells in the air
Your stuff is packed

After a fight, the next 24 hours are...

We talk, then repair
We cool off, avoid truth
We pretend nothing happened
I apologize to survive
I detach, plan escape

A friend asks how things are. You say...

We are working on it
It is complicated right now
We are fine, basically
I change the subject fast
I say, I am leaving

You get a free afternoon alone. Your first move is...

Plan a real reconnect date
Make a pros and cons
Enjoy quiet, avoid home
Call someone, ask for help
Research lawyers, move money

Money talk comes up. Your body does...

Get calm, set new rules
Ask questions, check the numbers
Tune out, let them handle
Feel dread, look for control
Separate accounts in your head

When you think about sex lately, you feel...

Still want closeness, slowly
Unsure, depends on the week
It feels like a chore
I avoid it for safety
No desire, want out

Apologies in your relationship usually...

They try, and follow through
Good words, shaky consistency
Rare, we just move on
Used to reset the blame
Too late, I am done

The last promise they made felt...

Kept, with real effort
Half kept, half forgotten
I cannot even remember
Broken, and I paid
Broken, that was the end

10.

If you bring up therapy, they...

Show up, do homework
Agree, then stall
Shrug, nothing changes
Mock it or explode
I book it for myself

11.

Your most common argument is about...

Fair chores and emotional labor
Trust, but details vary
Same loop, no resolution
Respect, honesty, basic decency
Everything, I want freedom

12.

You catch yourself daydreaming about...

A reset version of us
One clear sign to decide
Living parallel lives peacefully
Being alone, finally safe
Your own place, your rules

Part 2 — Answer key

Compare your answers after you have finished Part 1.

They reach for your hand in the car. You...
Squeeze back, want repair → +10 (You Don’t Want a Divorce — You Want Relief (and Repair))
Notice, file the moment → +10 (You’re Not Sure Yet — Get Clarity Before You Decide)
Let it happen, blank → +10 (You’re in a “Silent Divorce” — Disconnected, but Not Done)
Pull away, feel unsafe → +10 (Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed — Separation/Divorce Is on the Table)
Move your hand away → +10 (You Want a Divorce — It’s Time to Start Planning Safely)
A random weeknight at home feels like...
Messy, but we regroup → +10 (You Don’t Want a Divorce — You Want Relief (and Repair))
Shifts week to week → +10 (You’re Not Sure Yet — Get Clarity Before You Decide)
Two roommates, separate corners → +10 (You’re in a “Silent Divorce” — Disconnected, but Not Done)
Tense, eggshells in the air → +10 (Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed — Separation/Divorce Is on the Table)
Your stuff is packed → +10 (You Want a Divorce — It’s Time to Start Planning Safely)
After a fight, the next 24 hours are...
We talk, then repair → +10 (You Don’t Want a Divorce — You Want Relief (and Repair))
We cool off, avoid truth → +10 (You’re Not Sure Yet — Get Clarity Before You Decide)
We pretend nothing happened → +10 (You’re in a “Silent Divorce” — Disconnected, but Not Done)
I apologize to survive → +10 (Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed — Separation/Divorce Is on the Table)
I detach, plan escape → +10 (You Want a Divorce — It’s Time to Start Planning Safely)
A friend asks how things are. You say...
We are working on it → +10 (You Don’t Want a Divorce — You Want Relief (and Repair))
It is complicated right now → +10 (You’re Not Sure Yet — Get Clarity Before You Decide)
We are fine, basically → +10 (You’re in a “Silent Divorce” — Disconnected, but Not Done)
I change the subject fast → +10 (Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed — Separation/Divorce Is on the Table)
I say, I am leaving → +10 (You Want a Divorce — It’s Time to Start Planning Safely)
You get a free afternoon alone. Your first move is...
Plan a real reconnect date → +10 (You Don’t Want a Divorce — You Want Relief (and Repair))
Make a pros and cons → +10 (You’re Not Sure Yet — Get Clarity Before You Decide)
Enjoy quiet, avoid home → +10 (You’re in a “Silent Divorce” — Disconnected, but Not Done)
Call someone, ask for help → +10 (Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed — Separation/Divorce Is on the Table)
Research lawyers, move money → +10 (You Want a Divorce — It’s Time to Start Planning Safely)
Money talk comes up. Your body does...
Get calm, set new rules → +10 (You Don’t Want a Divorce — You Want Relief (and Repair))
Ask questions, check the numbers → +10 (You’re Not Sure Yet — Get Clarity Before You Decide)
Tune out, let them handle → +10 (You’re in a “Silent Divorce” — Disconnected, but Not Done)
Feel dread, look for control → +10 (Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed — Separation/Divorce Is on the Table)
Separate accounts in your head → +10 (You Want a Divorce — It’s Time to Start Planning Safely)
When you think about sex lately, you feel...
Still want closeness, slowly → +10 (You Don’t Want a Divorce — You Want Relief (and Repair))
Unsure, depends on the week → +10 (You’re Not Sure Yet — Get Clarity Before You Decide)
It feels like a chore → +10 (You’re in a “Silent Divorce” — Disconnected, but Not Done)
I avoid it for safety → +10 (Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed — Separation/Divorce Is on the Table)
No desire, want out → +10 (You Want a Divorce — It’s Time to Start Planning Safely)
Apologies in your relationship usually...
They try, and follow through → +10 (You Don’t Want a Divorce — You Want Relief (and Repair))
Good words, shaky consistency → +10 (You’re Not Sure Yet — Get Clarity Before You Decide)
Rare, we just move on → +10 (You’re in a “Silent Divorce” — Disconnected, but Not Done)
Used to reset the blame → +10 (Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed — Separation/Divorce Is on the Table)
Too late, I am done → +10 (You Want a Divorce — It’s Time to Start Planning Safely)
The last promise they made felt...
Kept, with real effort → +10 (You Don’t Want a Divorce — You Want Relief (and Repair))
Half kept, half forgotten → +10 (You’re Not Sure Yet — Get Clarity Before You Decide)
I cannot even remember → +10 (You’re in a “Silent Divorce” — Disconnected, but Not Done)
Broken, and I paid → +10 (Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed — Separation/Divorce Is on the Table)
Broken, that was the end → +10 (You Want a Divorce — It’s Time to Start Planning Safely)
If you bring up therapy, they...
Show up, do homework → +10 (You Don’t Want a Divorce — You Want Relief (and Repair))
Agree, then stall → +10 (You’re Not Sure Yet — Get Clarity Before You Decide)
Shrug, nothing changes → +10 (You’re in a “Silent Divorce” — Disconnected, but Not Done)
Mock it or explode → +10 (Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed — Separation/Divorce Is on the Table)
I book it for myself → +10 (You Want a Divorce — It’s Time to Start Planning Safely)
Your most common argument is about...
Fair chores and emotional labor → +10 (You Don’t Want a Divorce — You Want Relief (and Repair))
Trust, but details vary → +10 (You’re Not Sure Yet — Get Clarity Before You Decide)
Same loop, no resolution → +10 (You’re in a “Silent Divorce” — Disconnected, but Not Done)
Respect, honesty, basic decency → +10 (Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed — Separation/Divorce Is on the Table)
Everything, I want freedom → +10 (You Want a Divorce — It’s Time to Start Planning Safely)
You catch yourself daydreaming about...
A reset version of us → +10 (You Don’t Want a Divorce — You Want Relief (and Repair))
One clear sign to decide → +10 (You’re Not Sure Yet — Get Clarity Before You Decide)
Living parallel lives peacefully → +10 (You’re in a “Silent Divorce” — Disconnected, but Not Done)
Being alone, finally safe → +10 (Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed — Separation/Divorce Is on the Table)
Your own place, your rules → +10 (You Want a Divorce — It’s Time to Start Planning Safely)

1They reach for your hand in the car. You...

2A random weeknight at home feels like...

3After a fight, the next 24 hours are...

4A friend asks how things are. You say...

5You get a free afternoon alone. Your first move is...

6Money talk comes up. Your body does...

7When you think about sex lately, you feel...

8Apologies in your relationship usually...

9The last promise they made felt...

10If you bring up therapy, they...

11Your most common argument is about...

12You catch yourself daydreaming about...

Four result types, and the answer patterns behind them

Strategist

Exit-plan energy

Your answers cluster around repeated boundary breaks, broken agreements, or a steady feeling you have to shrink yourself to keep peace. Repair attempts do not stick, and you are doing most of the emotional labor. This type often matches the headline: Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed. Separation or Divorce Is on the Table, or You Want a Divorce. It’s Time to Start Planning Safely.

Strength:You see patterns clearly and protect your future self.

Growth edge:Turn certainty into a safe, stepwise plan instead of a single blowup decision.

Creative

Reboot energy

You still care, but your answers show the relationship keeps rerunning the same script. You want change that is concrete: new rules, therapy with homework, a fairer split of labor, or real accountability. This type can map to You Don’t Want a Divorce. You Want Relief (and Repair), or You’re in a “Silent Divorce.” Disconnected, but Not Done if distance has become normal.

Strength:You can imagine better, and you can name what “better” requires.

Growth edge:Stop accepting vague promises as progress, ask for timelines and follow-through.

Connector

Repair energy

Your answers show conflict feels safe enough to stay honest, and repair happens with follow-through. You can name recent moments where your partner showed up without being forced, and you still ask directly for what you need. This type most often aligns with You Don’t Want a Divorce. You Want Relief (and Repair), with a focus on strengthening repair skills and protection from burnout.

Strength:You stay connected without abandoning your needs.

Growth edge:Do not confuse “we can fix this” with “I must carry this.”

Analyst

Pattern-tracker energy

Your answers swing between good weeks and deal-breaker weeks, so you track consistency, not speeches. You are trying to separate real change from a great apology episode. This type often matches You’re Not Sure Yet. Get Clarity Before You Decide, and sometimes You’re in a “Silent Divorce.” Disconnected, but Not Done if you feel lonely while still partnered.

Strength:You resist being talked into a decision by a temporary high.

Growth edge:Set a decision window, or uncertainty can become its own trap.

Trusted next steps for legal options, safety, and support

Start with reliable, plain-language resources

These links cover low-cost legal help, choosing a divorce process, and confidential safety support if fear or control is part of your story.

USA.gov: Find a lawyer and affordable legal aid: A clear starting point for legal aid, lawyer referral options, and family law help by state.
Legal Services Corporation (LSC): I Need Legal Help: A locator for LSC-funded legal aid offices for people who qualify based on income and other factors.
American Bar Association: Choosing the Divorce Route That Is Best for You: Explains mediation, collaborative divorce, and litigation, plus practical questions to ask before choosing a path.
Office on Women’s Health: Get help: Guidance on getting support for relationship abuse, including what to expect when reaching out.
National Domestic Violence Hotline: Get Help: Confidential support and safety planning if intimidation, threats, monitoring, or fear show up in your relationship.

Do I want a divorce? FAQ for close matches, accuracy, and next steps

Quick answers for the moment after you get your result

How accurate is this, really, if only I am answering?

It is accurate at spotting the pattern you keep living, based on what you report. It cannot verify facts, see private context, or make a legal call. Use your result like a season recap, then compare it to the last three to six months of behavior, not one argument.

I got a close match between Strategist and Analyst. What is the tie-breaker?

Strategist is “the deal-breakers keep happening.” Analyst is “the signals keep flipping.” Ask one question: if nothing changes for the next 12 months, would you feel relief leaving, or grief leaving? Relief points Strategist. Grief plus uncertainty points Analyst.

Does a Connector or Creative result mean I should stay?

No. It means repair has a real chance if both people do consistent work. If your headline is Your Deal-Breakers Are Being Crossed. Separation or Divorce Is on the Table, take that seriously even if you still love them.

How do I use the headline outcome in real life?

Translate it into one next step. “You Don’t Want a Divorce. You Want Relief (and Repair)” can mean setting rules for conflict and labor, then checking progress. “You’re Not Sure Yet. Get Clarity Before You Decide” can mean a time-limited plan, like couples therapy for eight sessions with concrete goals.

Should I retake the quiz after a blowup, a breakup threat, or a good week?

Retake after you have at least a few calm days and enough time for behavior to repeat. A single incident can spike answers, but patterns show up across weeks. If you changed something real, like starting therapy or separating finances, a retake can confirm what shifted.

What if there is control, threats, or I feel afraid bringing up divorce?

Do not use this quiz as a safety check. Prioritize confidential support and a safety plan. If you want another lens on warning signs, try Signs of Divorce Test for Clarity. If you want insight into conflict patterns, try Free Attachment Style Test for Insight.

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